Wounded by God's People: Discovering How God's Love Heals Our HeartsAnne Graham LotzZondervan / 2013 / Hardcover$11.99 Retail:5 Stars Out Of 5 44 Reviews
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EncouragerAge: 55-65Gender: Female5 Stars Out Of 5Wounded by God's People really struck a nerveDecember 8, 2016EncouragerAge: 55-65Gender: FemaleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5Over the last several years I have been deeply wounded by several of God's people and had been trying hard to process the hurt and let it go. This book really helped me to do just that. I feel so much more freed from the hurt that I have endured by people that I thought were my friends and family. It helped me to accept that these relationships may never be the same but I can still forgive them and move on with my life with no regrets or feeling that I need to mourn these losses any more. God has filled the emptiness that was in my heart through Anne's words. She takes you through the process of healing step by step. I have also used what I have learned by sharing it with others who have also been wounded by other believers. I've found that there are more wounded than you might think.
Richard Penn5 Stars Out Of 5Healing Church-Inflicted WoundsJune 15, 2016Richard PennQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5We might expect Billy Grahams daughter, Anne Graham Lotz, to be an evangelical princess floating above the wounds that Christians too often give each other. But real and phony Christians have severelysometimes intentionallywounded this wife of 47 years, mom, speaker, bestselling author, and founder and president of AnGeL Ministries.
Gods people wounded her the most: betrayal, slander, meanness, rudeness, ostracism and returning evil for goodsometimes gift-wrapped with religion. Church people too often shoot wounded Christians instead of listening to, accepting, praying for, humbly serving and loving them. The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit (Proverbs 15:4).
Around 1985, Lotzs Southern Baptist church gave her 500-woman Bible Fellowship class the left foot of fellowship and applauded in its Sunday morning service that it had voted her long-serving husband out of leadership. Both got dishonored and railroaded for upholding Scriptural inspirationa point of contention then in Southern Baptist churches.
Her other problems and stressors have included miscarriage, hurricanes, her husbands dental clinic burning down, all three of their children marrying within eight months, their son getting cancer and divorcing, her parents health battles, her moms deathplus in her extended familyadultery, rape, drunkenness and drug addiction.
She confesses to provoking some of her wounds and even sometimes recycling them: Hurting people hurt people they nurse their pain, anger, bitterness, frustration, unforgiveness or resentment until they are enslaved. Pent-up anger can explode in blind volcanic rage targeting a nearby innocent person. Pain, guilt, grief and shattered relationships moved Lotz to tell her story.
She illustrates with Hagar whom Gods people wounded (Genesis 16:21). Hagar loved, respected, trusted and felt safe with Abraham and his barren wife Sarah, who exploited her humble, vulnerable, dependent servant as a surrogate mom. When pregnant with Ishmael, Hagar despised her barren mistress, who harshly retaliated.
Later Elkanahs first wife similarly ridiculed his barren wife Hannah, who responded by earnestly praying to God (1 Samuel 1-2).
Lotz writes: Unfortunately, pity parties never result in authentic benefit they just enlarge, deepen, and intensify the wound by repeatedly exposing it. Why habitually scrape off scabs? Sometimes it feels good to hurt bad. I can take a wicked pleasure in rehashing what others have said or done to inflict the wound, each time reaffirming my own innocence and giving in to self-pity. To recover she advises:
Admit your pain: Stop covering it up, rationalizing it, defending it, excusing it, ignoring it.
Dont see misguided human rejection as from God. Abused, dejected believers must run to, not from, God.
Dont submit to revenge, resentment, fear or anger. Let nothing harden your heart. Refocus from bitterness and look to our loving Lord for healing and perfect peace. Bitterness is like drinking poison, hoping the other person gets sick.
Stop feeling entitled to hold on to your wounds. After escaping this quicksand, you can move forward.
Pray out your pain. God puts wounds in perspective and salves stings: He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds (Psalm 147:3).
Seek insight and solace in Gods Word.
Carefully think without rationalizing your blind spots. Might your wounding come at least partly from your wounding others? We are skilled at absolving ourselves while seeing others faults.
Humbly repent of any sin and ask forgiveness of God and others.
When appropriate, with Gods wisdom and love, as privately as possible, correct people in sineven when it hurts both you and them.
Reach out in reconciling love as Jesus on the cross ministered to hurting peoplethe repenting criminal, Maryand even us.
Realize that a sovereign God uses our brokenness for His glory and our growth in spirit and ability to help others.
A Puritan expresses Lotzs heart: Quarry me deep, dear Lord, and then fill me to overflowing with living water.
First Peter 2:23 says of Jesus, When they hurled their insults at him, he did not retaliate; when he suffered, he made no threats. Instead, he entrusted himself to him who judges justly.
Arlo5 Stars Out Of 5Relevant for todayMay 10, 2016ArloQuality: 0Value: 0Meets Expectations: 0Ann is right on about being wounded by God's people! I see it continually as I work with women in my church and elsewhere. For some reason...we think we are to use God's Word as a Sword against one another! NOT so! We are to provide healing ointment...a word of comfort or challenge...and always the word of how much, HOW MUCH God cares for the wounded.This book ranks high in my estimation of hitting the "nail on the head" concerning our treatment of the wounded in our church community....
Mandy Farmer5 Stars Out Of 5For ANYONE who has been BULLIEDApril 19, 2016Mandy FarmerQuality: 0Value: 0Meets Expectations: 0We tend to think that God's servants are above being hurt; 513qnib9ecl-_sx334_bo1204203200_but that is just not true. As a matter of fact, I would venture to say that most ministers of the Word are hurt at least once in their ministry. I so appreciate Anne for being vulnerable and opening up to us about her own life while she teaches us through the life of Hagar on how to deal with hurt.
I had not ever taken much thought to Hagar and her son but God did. It is in the story of Hagar, that we find the name for God, El Roi, The God Who Sees Me. He cares so much about each one of us and the plight we are in AND he is watching over us.
What I learned was the God Who Sees Me cares deeply for His own. He sees each and every one of us. He loves us so much. He has a plan for us but He also allows us to make our own decisions. So He waits for us to call out to Him to rescue Him.
Studying the plight of Hagar has helped me face my own situation. It has taught me to look at where I may have failed. IT has warned me to not be a wounder myself. It has taught me to forgive regardless of what the other party may do towards repentance and reconciliation.
This book would help anyone who has been hurt not only by the church, but by anyone. In this age where we seem to think everyone is bullying everyone else. I think we need to start looking at how Jesus handled those who bullied Him. "Forgive them, for they know not what they do."
If you have ever been hurt by someone, read this book.
Gwen5 Stars Out Of 5This is real life.March 31, 2016GwenQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5I was able to identify as a wounded person and as a wounder. I had to ask God to forgive me for pass things I had not thought about or did not realize how I acted towards others. Reading this book was cleansing. It helped to open my eyes about holding on to past hurts, being angry with people long dead, and being prayerful about what I say and do in the future.