I first picked up the book thinking it would be an interesting read. Months later, I'm still processing what I learned. I thought I knew so much about guys, but I was so wrong! My friend and I got together, ordered a bunch more of the books, and are now leading a book discussion with teenage girls. Every time we meet for discussion, lightbulbs go on, not just for the girls but for my friend and I as well! Over and over, I've gone to a trusted male family member or friend and asked, "Is this true?" And over and over, the man has replied, "Yes. You didn't know that?" As I change many of the ways in which I interact with guys, I see a surprisingly positive response from guys. I am loving it!

Drawing on the results of surveys, interviews, and focus group discussions, the authors reveal 6 surprises about guys:

1. Guys need respect: Guys would rather feel unloved than inadequate and disrespected.

2. Guys are insecure: Although guys look confident--even cocky at times--they are often insecure in themselves. They worry that they will be found out, and therefore are drawn to girls who help them feel like they measure up.

3. Guys are tough and indestructible: Guys look indestructible, but on the inside their hearts are tender, easily hurt, and strongly guarded. However, they will let down their defenses when they know their heart will be safe with a girl.

4. Guys are visual: Even decent guys in great dating relationships struggle with the desire to visually linger on and fantasize about the female body--and much of the struggle depends on what the girl is wearing.

5. Guys are all out for one thing: Teenage guys are conflicted by their powerful physical desires, which also have massive emotional consequences. Guys need your help to protect both of you.

6. Guys go after the hot girls: Guys are attracted to girls with a good personality as well as inner and outer beauty, but they can't force a physical attraction.

The book is filled with real-life examples and quotes from the guys themselves (some of which are hysterically funny). I would highly recommend this book for any young woman who wants to become a better classmate, friend, sister, daughter, girlfriend, or future wife!

My sister and I recently read this book, and we both agree that it is an excellent book. (I am 18 and she is almost 17.) I has really helped me to understand how much they need our respect and encouragment as young women. It also did a pretty good job of explaining exactly what respect looks like. I have already begun changing the way I speak to young men. I highly recommend this book to teenage girls who want to know how the can help their brothers in Christ. I do have one word of caution for parents-- There is a chapter about physical affection.You may want to read over it first to see if your daughter is ready for it. Maybe discuss it with her. It is not really bad, but for girls that are more protected, it may be a little too much.

Easy to read. Gets to the point. My daughter loves the book and highly recommends it for all the young girls to read it. The book is not too long to read but short enough to get the points across.

An excellent book that every Christian, female teen should read. It does a super job of explaining males-the good and the bad-to young women. The earlier reviewer may have read the book a little too quickly if he felt it excused guys' lustful looking. The authors did spend a lot more time explaining how guys are visually stimulated-and explaining how that is normal-rather than how guys should handle the temptation. However, on page 99 they say: "Remember: The involuntary temptations we face in our life are not sins. What we do with those temptations is the issue." As they say on page 102: "A guy can deny himself the pleasure of the image [of an immodestly dressed girl] in order to honor God, the girl, or his mental purity..." The authors leave no doubt that males should not be "checking out" girls. They did say it was sinful to do so, though they never called it lust for some reason. I agree with the earlier review, that for someone wanting detail on what males need to do to live purely, Every Young Man's Battle is a great book.My only criticism is about something also on page 102: "When a sensual image enters a guy's mind ( or a great body enters his line of sight), it brings a rush of adrenaline. Speaking bluntly, the guys say it's almost like a short-term rush of sexual pleasure." Well, I would say they are not speaking bluntly enough, because it is not "almost" a rush of sexual pleasure, it IS a rush of sexual pleasure. In Every Young Man's Battle they refer to it as "visual fore play" and another great book for girls called Secret Keeper" also details the effects of looking on the male body.

I had "For Women Only", finally read it, ordered "For Young Women Only" which my younger daughter (soon to be 19) is reading and last night I heard her boyfriend reading her book aloud as they were together laughing in affirmation. I just ordered "For Young Men Only", which he cannot wait to read from cover to cover! Thank you, thank you! Expectations based on facts make for loving-lasting relationships w/ others and certainly w/ our Lord!