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  1. Sydney
    Age: 55-65
    Gender: female
    5 Stars Out Of 5
    thanks for the help!
    July 10, 2013
    Sydney
    Age: 55-65
    Gender: female
    Quality: 5
    Value: 5
    Meets Expectations: 5
    The book arrived on a day when my sister-in-law stopped in and told me of the difficulties her daughter was going through with their 3 year old. I told her that I hadn't read the book yet but had listened to some of Cynthia Tobias' audio talks and was intrigued by what she had to say, and sent the book home with her to give to her daughter. When I saw my niece a week later, she thanked me for the book and said that it was an answer to her prayers! When she got the book, she immediately started reading it and put some of the first ideas into motion and things were already improving with her child's behavior! She was excited to read the rest of the book. I have now also ordered her the other audio files of Cynthia Tobias and ordered another set for one of my other sisters!
  2. JGHmschl
    Age: 45-54
    Gender: Female
    5 Stars Out Of 5
    Excellent Reference for Raising "Stubborn" Childre
    October 12, 2013
    JGHmschl
    Age: 45-54
    Gender: Female
    Quality: 5
    Value: 5
    Meets Expectations: 5
    This review was written for You Can't Make Me (But I Can Be Persuaded).
    No other books have helped me with my strong-willed child as well as this one has. Other books are so vague; I really needed "how to's", and this definitely has them. I now understand that my child isn't necessarily doing things just to "be disobedient", which was what we had originally thought. Our approach was ruining our relationship with our child. This book has saved our parenting skills and has helped provide our child with a more functional childhood.
  3. Lisa
    Deltona fl
    Age: 35-44
    Gender: female
    5 Stars Out Of 5
    November 28, 2012
    Lisa
    Deltona fl
    Age: 35-44
    Gender: female
    Quality: 5
    Value: 5
    Meets Expectations: 5
    It is a parenting guide to handle the obstacles of having a strong willed child but I feel it helps you with adults also. It helped me tremendously. Would recommend highly and will buy as gifts for others!
  4. tswinnett
    Atlanta, GA
    Age: 45-54
    Gender: female
    5 Stars Out Of 5
    Must Read For Christian Parents
    November 12, 2012
    tswinnett
    Atlanta, GA
    Age: 45-54
    Gender: female
    Quality: 5
    Value: 5
    Meets Expectations: 5
    Parents often say they have a strong willed child. Some children are a little wiser, shall we say, about heeding correction than others. Strong willed children can cause early gray hairs in some parents and moments of counting the days until they leave home for others. Forget trying to dedicate him to God, you are trying to merely survive his childhood!

    I believe every child has the potential to be self-willed at any given moment. Remarkably, the behaviors of the self-willed child resemble those of the strong willed child. As parents, we want the "magic" secret for handling those moments when our child has drawn a line in the sand and dares us to cross it. How do we teach them obedience and avoid World War III in the process?

    Enter Cynthia Ulrich Tobias. I first because acquainted with her because of her wonderful book on learning styles. Recently, I was sent a copy of her latest book, You Can't Make Me (But I Can Be Persuaded). If I were to ever write a parenting book, this would be it. Her advice is practical, concrete and easily arranged for quick referencing in a parenting crisis.

    My main criticism is that I believe she undersells her book! I didn't see a strategy there that wouldn't work on almost any child. In fact, I would recommend this as an excellent general parenting book. She gives plenty of great advice on establishing healthy parent/child relationships and effective correction for a recalcitrant child (polite word for "try and make me"!). I would characterize her methods as loving, but firm. Children in her world don't get a free pass to misbehave, but are treated with respect and as if they may have something to offer.

    Take my advice and skip the quiz in the first chapter. It is a little confusing and trust me, every child needs to be parented with her techniques. Some of her "tricks" just won't be needed as often with some children as with others. My only other suggestion (for her to change in her next edition) would be to encourage parents to use the word "please" instead of "okay" when asking a child to do something. I believe it conveys the same respect, with a little less wiggle room for the child. Of course, I think I passed her quiz in the first chapter, so maybe that's just my strong willed response to her coaching!

    Take the quiz if you would like, but get the book and try her suggestions on your child. I believe you will find they work almost like "magic"! Remember God will be able to use a child who has been taught to be obedient more than He can use one who is constantly defiant.

    (I received this book for free for this review. I am painfully honest though, and would tell you if I didn't like it. I am keeping it on my reference shelf of parenting books in my library!)
  5. John Tobias
    5 Stars Out Of 5
    September 18, 2001
    John Tobias
    This review was written for You Can't Make Me (But I Can Be Persuaded).
    As the husband of, and father to, SWC's (strong willed children), I can safely say that this will be very enlightening for anyone who processes information the way I do. SWC's are a breed unto selves and Mrs. Tobias is fond of saying that "It takes one to know one", at least as far as counseling one goes. Cynthia IS one, so she has the uncanny ability to explain just what motivates SWC's. You can be sure it isn't threats. You can threaten an SWC until you are blue in the face, and it won't get you the result you want. If you are not ready to kill them, forget control because THEY are ready to die for what they believe in. The book, "You Can't Make Me!" gives a great opportunity for you to find out what WILL motivate an SWC. It is the "Guidebook" by and for the parents and loved ones of SWC's. Profits to my wife's firm aside, get this book if you are dealing with an SWC, whether at home, at work or in school. It will give you the tools you need to effect positive change in your SWC's life and your own!
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