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Jill Savage, Kathy KochMoody Publishers / 2014 / Trade PaperbackOur Price$13.495.0 out of 5 stars for No More Perfect Kids: Love Your Kids for Who They Are. View reviews of this product. 47 Reviews
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Book Loving MomTexas5 Stars Out Of 5They Aren't Perfect, and Neither Am IMay 11, 2014Book Loving MomTexasQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5"Children have no control over their ability. They do have control over how they use their ability — and that's a matter of character" (Savage, Jill and Kathy Koch. No More Perfect Kids, pg. 206).
I have been blessed to be a part of the launch team for Jill Savage and Kathy Koch's new book, No More Perfect Kids. These ladies are phenomenal in their writing and encouragement to parents everywhere. This is not just a book for moms; it's for anyone who parents children.
I think it's easy sometimes to forget that your children are little people with minds and emotions. We want the best for them, we want them to be so much more than we were, and in doing that, we can have very unrealistic expectations of them. This book answers questions of how to show our children that we love them, that they are important to us, and guiding them to find their purpose in life. Not only are the chapters honest and easy to understand, the appendix gives valuable and usable information that parents can use in practical ways. For example, there is a chapter called "Character Qualities to Develop in Your Children." How helpful! It puts words to the thoughts and goals we have, but this book provides realistic ways to act.
Obviously, Jill and Dr. Kathy have a heart for parents and kids, and it comes through in the material they've written so eloquently. This book does not make any accusations of parents' mistakes in raising their children, but it does cause parents to think about the ways in which they engage with their children. I don't know about anyone else, but I've made many parenting blunders, and I'm grateful to know that there's a way to change and repair what might have been broken by my own hand.
I wrote an email to Jill after reading No More Perfect Moms, and I was asked if she could use it for this book. I said yes, so my story is written, too. It was a tough time for me, but what healing came knowing I'm not alone.
We all have parenting stories of not knowing what to do, but if you will read this book, I can say that if something starts to go awry, or you think, "I don't know what to do in this situation," the concepts written here just may come to the forefront of your mind and give you hope, too.
I definitely recommend that all parents read this book cover to cover. It's helpful, insightful, and encouraging. -
Julia ReffnerFairport, NYAge: 35-44Gender: female5 Stars Out Of 5A Must Read for All MomsApril 22, 2014Julia ReffnerFairport, NYAge: 35-44Gender: femaleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5Do you ever struggle with expectations for your kids? Are you looking to your kids to fulfill dreams in your own heart? Do you struggle with being a perfectionist? Chances are you may not even realize some of the expectations you have put on your children. I know I didn't before picking up this book. Social media, listening too closely to the voices of others, and our own misconceptions can stifle the growth of our children into who God created them to become.
Most moms struggle with the gap between the imagined and the "real" child. Jill Savage and Kathy Koch attempt to teach moms to embrace who your children are rather than who you wish they were. Each chapter includes stories from real moms just like us who are learning and growing from their mistakes in the motherhood journey.
How do we encourage our children when they do make mistakes? Savage and Koch offer practical ideas for offering grace to our children and showing them that they are not defined by their worst moments (a lesson perhaps most moms need to learn as well).
After applying this loving acceptance, we can learn to help them with the process of change to live out all that they are in Christ.
No More Perfect Kids concludes with an extensive appendix section including: age-appropriate tasks for your children of all ages, Bible verse prayers, a dictionary of character qualities you might be attempting to develop in your children, scriptural blessings you can pray over your children, and a children's reading list with character building books for all ages. There is also a leader's guide with questions. These questions are excellent reflection questions to expand on the book.
Practical, engaging, and true to the everyday experience of moms, No More Perfect Kids helped me to realize the expectations I had unwittingly put on my children and showed me the reality of embracing the beauty and difficulties of parenting. It helped me see how Christ is using my children to mold and shape me as well as them. Highly recommended for all moms. -
LWaterSt. Croix Falls, WIAge: 35-44Gender: female5 Stars Out Of 5Amazing must-read for parents!March 4, 2014LWaterSt. Croix Falls, WIAge: 35-44Gender: femaleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5The book spoke to many thoughts and feelings I've been currently wrestling with as a Mom. Don't judge me for admitting this, but my children aren't exactly what I expected them to be. As they grow, I'm realizing that some of my hopes and dreams for them may never come true and this has brought some disappointment. And then I realized something... those hopes and dreams I had for them are actually MY hopes and dreams- not theirs. Our job as parents isn't to live vicariously through our kids. Instead, we are to nurture and encourage the gifts and talents they were created with.
NMPK spoke directly to a deep loss I've been feeling for the past 9 months as two of my children were diagnosed with a life-threatening disease. The book communicates to parents who are in this unique situation by referencing a poem about people who thought they were going to live in Italy, but ended up in Holland instead. The authors of NMPK emphasize that we are all created with purpose and that there are no mistakes- even with disease or disorder. It's just a small part of who God created them to be. We need to embrace that "unique, one-of-a-kind, unrepeatable miracle"! This concept could also apply to our child's interests, choice of style, talents, and personality. Our kids aren't going to be just-like-us, or just-like-we-expected. And that's a good thing!
This book taught me to treasure the children I have, and put away the false expectations of perfection. -
SandyDWest Fargo, NDAge: 45-54Gender: Female5 Stars Out Of 5Fantastic Book!May 19, 2018SandyDWest Fargo, NDAge: 45-54Gender: FemaleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5I really found this book to be an eye opener for sure. It was a great read and very helpful to me as a parent. No more perfect kids also made me realize that there is no perfect parent, but that we all can be a better parent.
There are lots of tips in this book that are super helpful and some that we may know, but just need a reminder.
This book is very encouraging and teaches us as parents ways to get to know our children better, to be better listeners, and to also realize that all children are different and should be celebrated.
This is a pretty quick read, and its a handy size to take along with you on the go. Great book, I definitely recommend to all parents. -
OhioSarahOhioAge: 35-44Gender: female5 Stars Out Of 5An excellent book for all moms and dads from a Christian worldviewApril 7, 2015OhioSarahOhioAge: 35-44Gender: femaleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5I had the pleasure of reading another of Dr. Kochs books, titled How Am I Smart?, and when I met Dr. Koch at the homeschool convention last year, she gave me No More Perfect Kids that she co-authored with Jill Savage. Yes, its taken me almost a year to read and review this book and I apologize to both authors for that, it has been a crazy year. One of the things Im guilty of as a mom is wanting my children to be who I think they should be, arent we all? I want them to do this or that or make them do things they dont want to do instead of listening and learning who they are as individuals, uniquely created by the Lord. In their book Savage and Koch, want to teach moms and dad how to love your kids for who they are, often times our children feel unloved and unwanted and devalued because we arent learning who they are and if we dont take the time to do that we cant fully embrace them and give them the love they need.
Using questions that children often ask such as:
Do You Like Me?
Am I Important to You?
Is It Okay Im Unique?
Who Am I?
Am I A Failure?
Whats My Purpose?
Will You Help Me Change?
The authors use these questions and build on them from a Christian and Biblical worldview, which is what makes this book so good, its not based on mans word but on Gods Word. I think the chapter that resonated with me the most is the, Am I A Failure?, I think most of us at one time or another struggle with feeling like a failure either in the eyes of our parents or in the eyes of the Lord. The authors address that as parents we may hear or ask some things like, I think I might be gay, Im pregnant, your child has dyslexia (that one is mine), or what are those cuts on your arms? They reiterate that as parents we are not failures, our children are not failures and our God is bigger than any of these and more Hes got this. It is how we deal with it. The authors gives parents the tools to use to help them overcome the toxic idea that our children have to be what we want them to be, and let them be the people that God created them to be, using Scripture.
I know Im going to re-read this book and really begin to implement some of the ideas in our house Ive had a hard time in trying to be the perfect Christian parent and trying to get my children to be who I want them to be instead of the creative, active and imaginative children they are. Jill Savage and Kathy Koch have written a fantastic book, its not all the answers, even the authors admit theyve messed up and sometimes still do and through the real life stories of other moms we can see how our human-ness gets in the way and until we let God do His job were going to mess up. Whether youre a mom of one or a mom of nine or twenty this book has a lot of helpful information in it to get you loving your children for who they are.
**I was given a copy of this book from the author in exchange for my honest opinion, no other compensation was given.
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