Learning to speak the same language with your child is very important because it is paramount to your child feeling loved. If a child feels genuinely loved by his/her parents, there will be a confidence and great self esteem that he/she will possess. Having a good self esteem will help the child make good decisions and not be influenced by peer pressure or the need to feel loved. "The Five Love Languages of Children" by Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell, M.D (1997) explain how to recognize and speak your child's love language.

Every child perceives love differently. The five ways children perceive love are through physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, gifts and acts of service. For a child to understand love, it has to be unconditional. According to the Holy Bible, "love never fails". If you seem to be failing in connecting with your kids, I recommend learning their love language. Parents can find out their child's love language by observing the way their child shows them love. This book explains in depth about discovering your child's love language. A child will develop normally when he/she really feels loved, but he will misbehave when the love tank is empty. Much of the misbehavior of children is motivated by the cravings of an empty love tank. Dr. Ross Campbell, a psychiatrist who has treated hundreds of children and adolescents said he remembered the hundreds of parents who had paraded the misdeeds of their children through his office. He said he had never visualized that there could be an empty love tank inside those children, but he certainly saw the results of it. Their misbehavior was a misguided search for the love they did not feel. They were seeking love in all the wrong places and in all the wrong ways.